Eight ways to improve your confidence by thinking

Self-confidence comes from within, and from how you see yourself. Try these suggestions for changing the way you see yourself and how you see your future.

1. Challenge negative thoughts about yourself

Are you being fair on yourself? Consider if you've given yourself negative labels, why you might have done this, and challenge the reasons why. For example - "I could never do a management job - I'm just not the type." Is this true? What makes you think you couldn't do it? Is it something somebody said? Why might you have low expectations of yourself? Challenge this!

2. Challenge excuses

If you make excuses for not taking action, repeat them back to yourself to see how they sound. Are they valid? They probably aren't ...

3. Accept yourself

Identify your strengths and weaknesses. You should be proud of your strengths and make the most of them. However, everyone has weaknesses and makes mistakes. Being aware of them and moving on is an achievement in itself.

4. Positive thinking

Imagine where you want to be, rather than where you feel you will end up. Imagining a positive future for yourself is very empowering.

5. Take responsibility for yourself

Another way to feel confident is to accept that your direction in life is down to you and your actions. Blaming bad luck and other things you can't control will hold you back. Unexpected events do crop up, and a few things may be beyond your control, but it's mainly you and your actions that shape your future. At first this can seem like a daunting level of responsibility, but soon after you will feel more confident and in control.

6. Learn to deal with failure and rejection

Anyone who tries to do anything will fail or be rejected at some stage in their lives. But it's better to try and fail, rather than never try at all. Some of the most confident and successful people spent years being rejected before they got to where they want to be. If you reflect on the reasons why you might have failed, you'll learn, and you'll have a higher chance of success next time.

7. Nerves are normal

It's normal to feel nervous when in a challenging situation, like an interview. A small amount of nerves can actually focus your mind on the task and make sure you're as sharp as possible. But think about why you are nervous - try to banish negative thoughts and imagine yourself succeeding.

8. Don't worry about what others think

Try not to allow what others think to play too big a part in your level of self-worth. Try not to let criticism affect how you see yourself. This applies to praise too - don't crave praise or come to rely on it, as you may miss it when it's not there. Try to gain a clear idea of who you are and what your strengths are.

Where can I get help and advice?

Careers Advice Service Careers Coaches can advise you on how to improve your self-confidence.

You can call free on 0800 100 900 or you can:

• email an adviser
• request a call back